What if Money didn’t Matter?
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Many people who watch this video will find it inspirational. It has been described as “Life-changing” and “Amazing.” I find it highly disturbing.

The idea of “Look out for number 1” is frighteningly prevalent and highly destructive in today’s culture. The woman (who made national news) who decided she was a “better mom” by leaving her kids and pursuing her own life is only one disturbing example.

We’re told by teachers, therapists, pastors and television, “In order to effectively love others, you must first love yourself.” “You have to take care of you, first.” “You can’t just give and never take.” Or my personal favorite, “Follow your heart. If it doesn’t feel good, it isn’t.”

Let’s disregard everything Scripture says on self-centeredness for a moment, and come at this from a purely neutral, logical standpoint.

I’m twenty-something, going on 5 years of marriage, two kids, a cat, and a husband who works for “the man.” (Read, too many hours, not enough money) Some days, I’m alone with the kids (both under the age of 3) for 12 or more hours at a time. By the time my husband comes home, all I want is to get away from the chaos. He, on the other hand, has had customers yelling at him, equipment showing up late, phones ringing off the hook, and coworkers complaining all day. All he wants is to be left alone, and all I want is a little conversation that doesn’t include Elmo, poo-poo, or ABC’s. Who gets to look out for number 1? If we both insist on it, at least one person (probably both) is going to end  up very unhappy.

It’s good to know what you desire. It’s good to know what you want out of life, marriage, parenthood, your career, your faith, and anything else that’s a part of your life. It’s also important to know that sometimes, I come last.

I am NOT talking about wearing yourself out until there’s literally nothing left. I AM talking about chucking the self-absorption that is spreading through pop culture like a cancer. If you have a family, sorry. They come first. (Um, Guys? This is NOT just for Mom.) If you’re married, there is none of this “50%” nonsense. Everyone has to give 100%, or your marriage will be a disaster. You have kids? Then what the *bleep* are you doing going out every single night? I don’t care if it’s to the club or to church, children need parents. Not one parent, not babysitters that are like family, not even loving grandparents (not only grandparents, anyway). They. Need. Parents. Your desires come after their needs.

Basically, it all boils down to this: Your desires are important, but your responsibilities come first.

“Let each esteem others as better than himself”

“The last shall be first and the first, last”

“Let no one seek his own good, but the good of his neighbor”



1 Comment (+add yours?)

  1. Jessica
    Feb 06, 2013 @ 21:04:47

    Amen, Alissa! Couldn’t agree more. 🙂


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